Men and Ladyboys

How do men relate to ladyboys? This series of articles will explore the topic.

Woman but not female

So where does that leave the bakla? She is woman but not female. What can she do?

Perhaps she might seek Genital Reconstruction Surgery, to give herself a replica of the Goddess' treasure. But wait; many transwomen, who have had GRS, say that their former partners then avoid them. This is even the case where the bakla is uniquely receptive in sex. But suddenly, equipped with her new vagina, finding men becomes hard. I know post-ops who are resigned to having to pay men for sex for the rest of their lives. Some of them are damn hot women, as well as charming people, both capable of great love and desperate to give it. How can this be?

Men who pursue women, on learning of the girl's past, may pass her over because of it; such is prejudice and it is their loss. Many who were happy to penetrate her when she had a cock, won't go near her now she has a vagina, no matter how convincing it is; they are too busy chasing beauties who remain be-dicked. They have rediscovered the girl of their childish imaginings, when they knew nothing of vaginas and thought everyone had a penis and they are not about to let her go. They want girls who still have that fascinating little jewel between their legs, which feels so pleasant in the hand, in the dim morning light, when she is but half-awake.

Yes, they will claim, in public, that the dick is irrelevant, it's all about the person, but they lie. That dick is central to their attraction, it's why they sought out a bakla in the first place. She is literally the girl of their dreams and they are drawn to her inexorably.

Suppose such a man encounters a transwoman, her long legs tanned under her shorts, her mischievous eyes twinkling, her hair down to her waist and her boobs pushed up, surreptitiously turning to show the swell of her buttocks, in the supermarket queue perhaps, or in the street. His heart will race, the pulse will with thump in his ears and his throat will go dry; and all that even if he is with his wife or girlfriend. That reaction is the result of one thing and one thing only: the little item in her pants. Otherwise she's just like all the other nondescript women he meets every day. Just ask any man who has tasted the forbidden fruit – not the one in Eve's hand, the one in a bakla's; he will never again be really satisfied with what a woman can give him.

Relationships with Ladyboys

Sexual attraction in itself would not explain the fact that there is an increasing number of men in long-term relationships with ladyboys. How does that happen?

A ladyboy will do everything she can to be as feminine as possible. In fact, when we make a direct comparison between the feminist standards of appearance that have become all too common in the West and the feminine standards that still obtain elsewhere, the fact is that Asian transwomen are more beautiful, on average, than Western women – even with their make-up off.

Then again, the increasing corruption of Western society by feminism has meant that women there are discouraged from having children or even being mothers to them if they do. The traditional family has been all but destroyed. So plenty of men look to Asia and elsewhere to find a partner who has not been infected by this corruption. In doing so they are just following the natural order. But that still doesn't explain why long-term relationships are established between men and ladyboys.

There seem to be several reasons rather than one. The man’s experience with his former wife, if he had one, might have been so awful that he has no desire ever to repeat it; every time he looks into a cis-woman’s eyes, he sees the serpent who made his life such a misery. He may already be a father and has no inclination to do that again. Ladyboys can't have babies and so their focus on their partners will never be diluted, as a woman's rightly would, by her division of love between her partner and her children. The man always gets to be the focus of his lover's desire and as a result, these relationships maintain the heady air of the beginning of the affair for many years. There is always that delight, that unmitigated pleasure in each other and in the physical side of the relationship.

Then there is that physical side. Leaving aside those men who like to be penetrated – who are usually Autogynephilic themselves – does anyone out there actually believe that a ladyboy’s singular ‘female organ’ is any less sensuous, exquisite, even, than the holes a woman has? I hear the claim that men would always prefer a natural vagina regularly, but it invariably comes either from women, who, not being possessed of a penis, have not a clue what men like, or men who have never tried a ladyboy’s sweetness, yet think themselves qualified to comment. Clearly these opinions have little value and I can assure you, dear reader, speaking as one who has indulged more than his fair share of both, that said sweetness measures up nicely to the standard of a woman’s front hole and in many cases betters it. A talented ladyboy can be quite the performer in bed.

Another reason is that both parties are actually male, though they play opposite gender roles. This means that their romantic relationship is in some ways more equal. In the West, feminists try to enforce equality by turning women into men, while making men into effeminate fops. This has been disastrous, because women are not male and unless they have Sexual Inversion (ie, are butch lesbians, in which case they would hardly partner men) they cannot ever be men. The attempt to do so causes women either to abandon the very femininity that attracts men or to use it against them; their natural instinct to become Lady Macbeth is maximised, with a good deal of Cruella DeVille thrown in. The Dark Goddess, who resides in all women, is amplified and her mischievous but delightful sister suppressed. But ladyboys cannot be mothers and so they can never be Ereshkigal; instead they are always that blithe sister, Inanna.

Men are faced with a choice between a 'modern woman' who thinks being a mother is a kind of slavery and refuses to have children, who may also think that just being feminine is an 'oppression' and that sex with men is a capitulation to the ‘patriarchy,’ and a woman who revels in her femininity and makes every effort to maintain it, who loves sex, but who can't have children. Today, many men will opt for the latter. It makes sense. The man gets the lover of his dreams and she will stay that way for decades. We do not buy a new Ferrari to find, in five years, that what is in the garage is a dilapidated Isuzu that refuses to start.

Because both parties are actually male, there can be a comfortable familiarity between them. They know exactly how each other's bodies feel and to an extent they can better predict their responses. A ladyboy would never compete with her man for masculine status, the way a Western woman today might. She will probably be the Queen Bee in the house, because she is an Asian woman, after all, looking after the accounts and purchases and bill-payments; but she will always revere the essential gender hierarchy. These things help to cement their bonds.

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Kabaklaan: the way of the bakla

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